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Positive Values
You can instill positive values
to guide young people.
Values are the foundation for the
choices we make and the way we think. Exploring and developing
values is especially critical for adolescents as they develop
personal identity.
In the developmental assets framework, positive values mean:
- Caring about others,
including being committed to equality and social justice;
- Having high standards for
personal character, such as being honest, having integrity,
and taking responsibility; and
- Believing in protecting your
own well-being by refraining from sexual activity and
alcohol or other drug use.
Young people’s values grow out of
discovering what is important to them and what matters to people
they care about. As part of this process, young people will “try on”
different values to see if they fit and are comfortable. You can’t
choose young people’s values, but you can help shape their values by
talking about them, living yours, and explain their importance in
your life.
Here are some points to keep in mind as you strive to guide and
positively influence the young people in your family, school,
workplace, and neighborhood:
- Values should inspire, not
just prohibit. Too often, the values we seek to instill in
young people focus only on staying away from negative behaviors.
This emphasis on what not to do gives little guidance for the
majority of life choices. Young people also need to develop
values such as responsibility and caring that guide their
day-to-day actions and interactions in positive ways.
- Values don’t always lead to
actions. At times young people are torn between a value they
hold strongly (such as not using alcohol) and another desired
goal (such as peer acceptance). In these cases, developmental
assets in the “positive identity” and
“boundaries-and-expectations” categories play an important role
in the final decision.
- Families matter. Research
shows that family factors such as close family relationships and
parents’ caring and empathy for others are key to helping young
people develop strong, positive values.
- Consistent messages are
vital. If young people are introduced to one set of values
at home, another at school, another with friends, and yet
another in the media and wider community, they are likely to be
confused, frustrated, and unsure about what’s really important.
The most effective way to instill values in youth is for adults
and organizations that interact with young people to work
together to develop a shared understanding and expression of
what matters.
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